1) Still try and do that thing. Don’t push yourself if you reeeeeaaaaallyyy feel like shit, but if you have plans with a friend or you have somewhere to be like work or college, try your hardest to still make it. You might feel a bit shitty but they might cheer you up or take your mind off of the situation. Chances are if you’re having a really bad day your friends or work colleagues will pick up on it and try their best to cheer you up. Besides, they are there to rant to if you need to.
2) Speak. Socialise. Even if all you want to do is lie in bed and not speak to anyone, even if you feel annoying or like you don’t know what to say. There is normally someone out there who will want to speak to you. You’re not alone, no matter how alone you seem to think you are. Message an old friend, message a new friend, message your best friend, message your girl/boyfriend, MAKE a new friend even. Someone will want to speak to you or will enjoy having a conversation with you and it might make both of you feel better for talking to each other.
3) Do something productive. Have you got an assignment from a month ago that’s in for next week that you haven’t even started? Same. Do it. Try your best to do as much as you can do because you will more than likely be thankful you did so afterwards. Even little things like tidying your desk, drawing something, reading a book, washing up, making yourself dinner, brushing your cat etc etc. It will make you feel better. Some people make lists of what they’ve achieved, from ‘waking up at 6:45’ to ‘completing my assignment’ (both of which i did today, woo), they all matter and will contribute towards you feeling better about yourself as you can see what you have achieved.
4) Lucky charms. I don’t mean eat a bowl of cereal, i mean that sometimes it’s nice to feel like you have a little lucky charm with you all day. Although maybe it’s tedious and cheesy, i feel like they work for me. I have a bracelet that i got from my best friend that i somtimes wear when I’m feeling shitty about how i look, and although when i got given it it had nothing to do with being lucky, for some reason it calms my mind. I think it’s because it reminds me of the nice things they’ve said that contradict the thoughts in my mind so it gives me some sense of comfort. Other things i can think of are my yellow t-shirts, the pillow i have made from one of my dad’s jumpers and probably some more.
5) One of the things that works for me sometimes is to put pride into my apprearance. Sometimes i wake up and I’m like nah, and i will go wherever I’m going with unwashed hair, a bare face and in leggings and a hoodie. But sometimes doing my makeup or having a shower will make me feel good about myself, and if I’m having a down day then it will make it ten times better if i feel like i look good. Even small things like finding the motivation to brush your hair or washing your face will hopefully help you to feel like you did something.
6) Put music on. I’m one of those people who listens to ‘mood music’, which means my DEPRESSING PLAYLIST when i feel sad, my Rave/Prom songs and Aiden’s Banging Tunes playlist when i feel like singing and dancing and so on. For some people sad music isn’t a good thing to listen to when you are sad, and they say that you should listen to happy music to make you feel happier. But to me i feel like i can connect with some of the lyrics in the sad music and idk, i guess i feel less alone in the situation I’m in. But, whatever works for you, music in the background, or playing loudly through your earphones, or crying along to it, usually helps me and i feel like it is better for someone who is having a down day than silence is.
7) Raaaaaannnnnnttttt. Rant your heart out, be it to a friend, on your tumblr, in a secret diary, to your family, to your fish, through artwork, through a song, whatever. For me i find it good to rant as i get everything off of my mind. Sometimes ranting may not help the actual situation at all, but getting it off your mind is usually beneficial.
8) Eat and drink. Do not lie in bed thinking “i really cannot be bothered to go all the way downstairs and make something to eat” and yeah, i know it’s hard. But it’s important to eat and drink something in the day just to keep you healthy. I have a bottle of water next to my bed so even if i feel like not moving then at least i cannot die of dehydration. I also currently have half a tub of treeselets (tiny christmas tree versions of cheeselets, little cheesy crackers☺) on my desk that are there to eat if i need to. But yeah, make sure you eat or drink something.
9) Think positive. Again, hard, i know. All you want to do when you feel like shit is lie in bed and dissolve into your pit of shittiness thinking you’re shit and everything around you is shit and you’re being treated like shit and whatever you need to do is shit. But, think positive. As cliché as it may be, think to yourself that you’re not so shit, that you can prove yourself against what you think everyone thinks, stick up for yourself, you can do that work you have, you can get up and go shower etc. Sometimes i message my friends asking for reassurance, sometimes i find messages where my friends have written me happy birthday and have written nice things about me, sometimes i look through my school yearbook and again at things people have written about me. But keep your mind positive.
10) Do whatever you need to to get yourself back to being the amazing person you are.
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